After taking this module of life management skills,i have indeed learnt and benefited a lot from it. It has taught me many usefuls skills which i can apply to my daily life, from managing angers to building self-esteem, and the importance of each of them. From this module,it has definitely change my perspectives to my interpersonal life and personal development. I have learnt to look at problems in life positively and also, realizing that self-esteem and self-awareness are really important factors in life. In short,i have felt that, somehow, this module had mold me into a better person,living life more meaningfully.
Firstly,i have learnt much more about managing conflict which is something common and inevitable in our daily life. But what is important at the end of the day is that, every conflicts could be solved peacefully. Also,i have learnt that if conflicts are not solved, it can lead to several consequences which could be severe such as violence and even divorce. Moreover,i have also leant that managing my anger is also very important. As anger are usually part of everyone's life,it is important to prevent it effectively, getting it over easily also prevent unecessary conflicts.More importantly,living life happily rather than filled with anger and hatred.
Moreover,i have get to know the two important components in life, which is self-esteem and self-awareness. This part of the module, had make me learn more about myself,and how i can control my emotions. Also,having high self-esteem helps me a lot in life, such as overcoming problems seemed to be much more easier than ever, nothing seemed to defeat me in any ways.
These skills and knowledge have helped me to improve my social life as well as liiving a more vibrant life.
The most enjoyable part of this module would be the activities which the tutor had organised for us in the class itself, Through these activities, i have learnt better about each topics and put into practices in daily life. Regarding improvements for this module, i guess it is already well-planned and sufficient enough. However, it can be further improved if more activities could be organised so that the module topics could be more easily understood by students while they can participate actively in the activities. I'm sure this will help a lot for the tutors in their teaching as well as learning for the students. In conclusion, i really enjoyed this module very much, for it has benefited me more than i expected.Overall, it is a great experience of my life.
Thursday, July 19, 2007
Thursday, June 28, 2007
Managing Conflict
Conflicts can happen anywhere,anytime and to anyone.The consequences of conflicts are always negative,causing all parties involve in the conflict to be filled with anger and hatred.However,if conflicts are handled well with sensitivity and openess,it could be a great opportunity for self-improvement as well as understanding others better,which would result in better relationship with others.
There are many reasons for the causation of conflict,such as disagreements,misunderstandings and problems,to name a few.To be more precise,a conflict happened when the actions of one party taken to reach his/her goals prevented or interfered with the actions taken by another party to reach his/her goals defined as “an action that is incompatible with another action.
There are three basic concept underlying conflict which is the needs,interests and values.
In life,there are many inevitable conflicts.One could be relaionship conflict which can be due to miscommunications between friends or even negative comments said and behaviours showed which could triggar a conflict.Others could be data conflicts,interest-based conflicts,structural conflicts and value-based conflicts.One specific and common conflict is the family conflict.
In a family,conflicts among members are common,however it should be handled effectively because it can turn into violence.Parents in a family can quarrel because of disagreements,misunderstanding or even problems in the family such as financially.
Also,elder siblings in the family might easily quarel with younger siblings due to generation gap. This could seemed like small matter,but a long term of hatred would result severly.
However,outcomes of conflict can also appear to be positive.Firstly,it can help improve self-awareness which allow oneself to understand ourselves as a person and understand what makes us angry or frighten.Secondly,it can help strengthen relationship as it allows both parties to understand the need to solve the problems existing together as well as because resolving a conflict requires one to take into account the other person’s views and values.Also,it promotes group cohesion where identities of each group members are clearer,this is positive as it promotes the social development of group members by promoting higher levels of cognition and moral reasoning.Moreover,other positive outcomes could be promotes creativity,helps problem-solving and can be fun and motivating.
There are five ways in which people manage their conflicts.one way is avoiding,where the person totally gave up on solving the problems and felt helpless.Another one could be competing where goals are more important than relationships,forcing others into submission and not caring about if they accept it.Also,some people use the accomodating style,where they would accept the others because to them,relationships are more important than their goals as they would want to be liked by others.Moreover,some would prefer the compromising style,where bothe parties will sacrifice part of their goals and relationship to come into a agreement,and in turns,both side gain something from it.Lastly,it would be the collaborating style where negotiations would be performed to seek solution to reduce the tension in the relationship.In this way,relationships can be maintained or even improved.
In conclusion,conflicts in life are always inevitable and the consequences could be much more worse than we could imagine.It is important to maintain a good balance between achieving our goals and our relationships with others.However,outcomes of conflicts can also be positive if it is viewd with sensitivity and openess.Everything can be resolve and we should avoid unecessary conflicts as much as possible.As the saying goes "every cloud has its silver lining."
There are many reasons for the causation of conflict,such as disagreements,misunderstandings and problems,to name a few.To be more precise,a conflict happened when the actions of one party taken to reach his/her goals prevented or interfered with the actions taken by another party to reach his/her goals defined as “an action that is incompatible with another action.
There are three basic concept underlying conflict which is the needs,interests and values.
In life,there are many inevitable conflicts.One could be relaionship conflict which can be due to miscommunications between friends or even negative comments said and behaviours showed which could triggar a conflict.Others could be data conflicts,interest-based conflicts,structural conflicts and value-based conflicts.One specific and common conflict is the family conflict.
In a family,conflicts among members are common,however it should be handled effectively because it can turn into violence.Parents in a family can quarrel because of disagreements,misunderstanding or even problems in the family such as financially.
Also,elder siblings in the family might easily quarel with younger siblings due to generation gap. This could seemed like small matter,but a long term of hatred would result severly.
However,outcomes of conflict can also appear to be positive.Firstly,it can help improve self-awareness which allow oneself to understand ourselves as a person and understand what makes us angry or frighten.Secondly,it can help strengthen relationship as it allows both parties to understand the need to solve the problems existing together as well as because resolving a conflict requires one to take into account the other person’s views and values.Also,it promotes group cohesion where identities of each group members are clearer,this is positive as it promotes the social development of group members by promoting higher levels of cognition and moral reasoning.Moreover,other positive outcomes could be promotes creativity,helps problem-solving and can be fun and motivating.
There are five ways in which people manage their conflicts.one way is avoiding,where the person totally gave up on solving the problems and felt helpless.Another one could be competing where goals are more important than relationships,forcing others into submission and not caring about if they accept it.Also,some people use the accomodating style,where they would accept the others because to them,relationships are more important than their goals as they would want to be liked by others.Moreover,some would prefer the compromising style,where bothe parties will sacrifice part of their goals and relationship to come into a agreement,and in turns,both side gain something from it.Lastly,it would be the collaborating style where negotiations would be performed to seek solution to reduce the tension in the relationship.In this way,relationships can be maintained or even improved.
In conclusion,conflicts in life are always inevitable and the consequences could be much more worse than we could imagine.It is important to maintain a good balance between achieving our goals and our relationships with others.However,outcomes of conflicts can also be positive if it is viewd with sensitivity and openess.Everything can be resolve and we should avoid unecessary conflicts as much as possible.As the saying goes "every cloud has its silver lining."
Thursday, May 31, 2007
Managing anger
Whenever we got angry,we felt like everything were against us.Anger causes a person to change emotionally,and would be seemed like he or she had became another person with a different character compared to before.If the anger continued and was further accumulated,it could definitely lead to many others negatives consequences.Therefore,managing anger is necessary and also important.
Anger could be easily identified such as tightened muscles,red face,shouting,throwing temper and clenching fists.If anger has been on a regular basis,it can even leads to hypertension, digestive problems, and other chronic illnesses.This is simply one reason that i would urge people to learn about anger management,while it is vital for our health as well.Emotionally,we,human beings,do feel disappointed,sad,dishearted or even explosive when we got angry.Many had vent their anger by using violence such as punching the people,scolding others,find faults on otthers and could even turn to killings of innocent.As we all know,these are all not the right ways to solve problem,but yet,when we got angry,we could not control out emotions and could probably did things that are so unbelievable.
However,there are also things that we could do before anything happened when we were angry.
It has a lot to do with self-control.With this value in you,i am sure you can mange your anger efectively.There are a few suggestion from me that we could do to control our anger,such as listening to the musics,taking a deep breath,go for exercise like jogging and could even talk to someone whom we could confide in and tell he or she about your feelings and thoughts.
As anger is inevitable in everyone's lives,what important is that we could manage our anger well and get over it fast when it comes.It is never easy to do so,but it is never impossible as well.There is no fix ways of solving the problems when you gets angry,as long at the end of the day,you mange to get over it and get on with life again.And i am sure you will agree with me that,living life happily would definitely be more preferref than living a life full of anger and hatred.
Anger could be easily identified such as tightened muscles,red face,shouting,throwing temper and clenching fists.If anger has been on a regular basis,it can even leads to hypertension, digestive problems, and other chronic illnesses.This is simply one reason that i would urge people to learn about anger management,while it is vital for our health as well.Emotionally,we,human beings,do feel disappointed,sad,dishearted or even explosive when we got angry.Many had vent their anger by using violence such as punching the people,scolding others,find faults on otthers and could even turn to killings of innocent.As we all know,these are all not the right ways to solve problem,but yet,when we got angry,we could not control out emotions and could probably did things that are so unbelievable.
However,there are also things that we could do before anything happened when we were angry.
It has a lot to do with self-control.With this value in you,i am sure you can mange your anger efectively.There are a few suggestion from me that we could do to control our anger,such as listening to the musics,taking a deep breath,go for exercise like jogging and could even talk to someone whom we could confide in and tell he or she about your feelings and thoughts.
As anger is inevitable in everyone's lives,what important is that we could manage our anger well and get over it fast when it comes.It is never easy to do so,but it is never impossible as well.There is no fix ways of solving the problems when you gets angry,as long at the end of the day,you mange to get over it and get on with life again.And i am sure you will agree with me that,living life happily would definitely be more preferref than living a life full of anger and hatred.
Friday, May 4, 2007
Self-awareness & self-esteem
Having high self-awareness and self-esteem were indeed important,especially when faced with difficulties and obstacles in life,where we might not be able to cope those stress well.
In order to gain self-awareness,first we have to get to know about ourselves,our values and how we perceive the world.Self-awareness is one essential component in forming strong,lasting relationships with others.i felt that it is really important,with self-awareness,i could easily face any difficulties and also about to react to certain unexpected situations effectively.
Moreover,i would be able to appreciate myself as well as able to present myself appropriately.
This could help a lot when making new friends.Also,i could be more sociable and communicate with others more effectively.There are a few ways to enhance self-awareness.One could be making reflections of daily life and observing my own behaviours.From there,i could probably change my bad habits and improve on them,this could make me a better person.
Also,being more open to others and getting their feedbacks,this could be another way of reflecting as well.Again,those comments and opinions could be good for self-improvement.
Regarding self-esteem,i think that it is really essential in everyone's lives.This is because,with high self-esteem,the person could never be defeated with any problems.And all problems could just be easily solved.This is simply because this person would have high confident in himself,and nothing seemed to be able to overcome him.With great confident,problems are easier to solve,and he would not be stress over such problems.some examples could be families problems,financial problems or even when being retrenched.These people are confident and would work their way through to solve them,as they always believe in themselves.
Indeed,self-esteem seemed really important to anyone of us.Having high self-esteem will allow use to take in control when there are situations.Moreover,we would be able to communicate better with others and this could lead to meaningful relationships,where a person social life would be much more fruitful.More importantly,we could easily adapt to any challenges and easily recover from any setbacks,as well as able to be independence in own thoughts and actions.
In conclusion,both self-awareness and self-esteem are indeed essential components in life.It would definitely help us a lot in our daily lives,be it the relationships with friends,family or even lecturers.Also,being more confident to face problems in life,and believing in ourselves that these problems could be solved easily.With self-awareness and self-esteem,our life could definitely be more meaningful that we could imagine.
In order to gain self-awareness,first we have to get to know about ourselves,our values and how we perceive the world.Self-awareness is one essential component in forming strong,lasting relationships with others.i felt that it is really important,with self-awareness,i could easily face any difficulties and also about to react to certain unexpected situations effectively.
Moreover,i would be able to appreciate myself as well as able to present myself appropriately.
This could help a lot when making new friends.Also,i could be more sociable and communicate with others more effectively.There are a few ways to enhance self-awareness.One could be making reflections of daily life and observing my own behaviours.From there,i could probably change my bad habits and improve on them,this could make me a better person.
Also,being more open to others and getting their feedbacks,this could be another way of reflecting as well.Again,those comments and opinions could be good for self-improvement.
Regarding self-esteem,i think that it is really essential in everyone's lives.This is because,with high self-esteem,the person could never be defeated with any problems.And all problems could just be easily solved.This is simply because this person would have high confident in himself,and nothing seemed to be able to overcome him.With great confident,problems are easier to solve,and he would not be stress over such problems.some examples could be families problems,financial problems or even when being retrenched.These people are confident and would work their way through to solve them,as they always believe in themselves.
Indeed,self-esteem seemed really important to anyone of us.Having high self-esteem will allow use to take in control when there are situations.Moreover,we would be able to communicate better with others and this could lead to meaningful relationships,where a person social life would be much more fruitful.More importantly,we could easily adapt to any challenges and easily recover from any setbacks,as well as able to be independence in own thoughts and actions.
In conclusion,both self-awareness and self-esteem are indeed essential components in life.It would definitely help us a lot in our daily lives,be it the relationships with friends,family or even lecturers.Also,being more confident to face problems in life,and believing in ourselves that these problems could be solved easily.With self-awareness and self-esteem,our life could definitely be more meaningful that we could imagine.
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